“Menstrous Woman” נִדָּה According to Jewish law, a woman is forbidden to maintain sexual relations with her husband during and for sometimes both before and after her menses. For info on the word click here
Jewish Alternative in Love, Dating and Marriage by Pinchas StolperPage 77-78 98% of the first book of Genesis, is devoted to narratives describing the creation of the world, the beginnings of mankind, and mankind, and Abrahamאַבְרָהָם/ˈeɪbrəhæm, -həm/; , Modern: ʾAvraham, As recounted in the Torah, his name was originally Avram which means “High Father” – “av” (אב) “father”, “ram” (רם) “high” – with the “ha” (ה) added in mark of his covenant with God. For more info click here, Isaacיִצְחָק(Yīṣḥāq) meaning “he will laugh”, reflecting the laughter, in disbelief, of Abraham and Sarah, when told by God that they would have a child.. Jacobיַעֲקֹב(/ˈdʒeɪkəb/; Modern: Yaʿaqōv (help·info), Tiberian: Yaʿăqōḇ; Arabic: يَعْقُوب, romanized: Yaʿqūb; Greek: Ἰακώβ, romanized: Iakṓb) the name Yaʿaqōv יעקב is derived from ʿaqev עָקֵב “heel”, as Jacob was born grasping the heel of his twin brother Esau. (later called Israel) for more info click here and the Tribes of IsraelיִשְׂרָאֵלTransliteration: yiśrā’ēl The name Israel (Septuagint Ancient Greek: Ἰσραήλ, Israēl, “El (God) persists/rules” or “God prevails”) refers to the patriarch Jacob who, according to the Hebrew Bible, was given the name after he successfully wrestled with the Angel of the Lord. The earliest known archaeological artifact to mention the word Israel as a collective is the Merneptah Stele of ancient Egypt (dated to the late-13th century BCE) for more info click here. The reason Genesis dwells on biography, personalities, events and not laws is to instruct us to pattern our own lives on their struggles, their challenges and solutions which they employed.Of course, were the Bible to have recorded the full biographies of Abrahamאַבְרָהָם/ˈeɪbrəhæm, -həm/; , Modern: ʾAvraham, As recounted in the Torah, his name was originally Avram which means “High Father” – “av” (אב) “father”, “ram” (רם) “high” – with the “ha” (ה) added in mark of his covenant with God. For more info click here, Isaacיִצְחָק(Yīṣḥāq) meaning “he will laugh”, reflecting the laughter, in disbelief, of Abraham and Sarah, when told by God that they would have a child., Jacobיַעֲקֹב(/ˈdʒeɪkəb/; Modern: Yaʿaqōv (help·info), Tiberian: Yaʿăqōḇ; Arabic: يَعْقُوب, romanized: Yaʿqūb; Greek: Ἰακώβ, romanized: Iakṓb) the name Yaʿaqōv יעקב is derived from ʿaqev עָקֵב “heel”, as Jacob was born grasping the heel of his twin brother Esau. (later called Israel) for more info click here and their children, many volumes would have been required. Instead, the Bible selects very few incidents, because these specific events represent the special life situations which the Bible expects us to emulate. Let’s study a few examples relating to the “place” of women: When the Jewish people are enslaved and oppressed in EgyptמִצְרַיִםTransliteration:miṣrayim – Pronunciation: mits-rah’-yim adjective, proper locative noun – Egypt = “land of the Copts (a member of a people descended from the ancient Egyptians)” . For more info click here. The Talmud tells us that Amram, father of MosesמשהMeaning of the name: Linguist Abraham Yahuda, based on the spelling given in the Tanakh, argues that it combines “water” or “seed” and “pond, expanse of water,” thus yielding the sense of “child of the Nile” For more info click here, was the leader of that generation. When the Egyptians said that all male children be drowned, Amram decided that he could no longer bring children into the world. So, he separated from his wife and all the Jewish men followed his lead. At that point his daughter, MiriamמִרְיָםMīryām, lit. ‘Rebellion’) is described in the Hebrew Bible as the daughter of Amram and Jochebed and the older sister of Moses and Aaron. for more info click here, demanded “Father your decree is more cruel than Pharaoh’s. Pharaoh’s decree applies to male children alone, But yours applies to all children equally. Pharaoh’s decree may or may not persist but because you are a righteousצַדִּיקTransliteration ṣadîq Pronunciation tsad-deek’ To do what is right Tzadik is also the root of the word tzedakah (‘charity’, literally ‘righteousness’). justice, rightness, righteousness – For more info click here man your decree will persist,” Miriam’sמִרְיָםMīryām, lit. ‘Rebellion’) is described in the Hebrew Bible as the daughter of Amram and Jochebed and the older sister of Moses and Aaron. for more info click here insight convinced her father, he takes back his wife, and so do the others. As a result MosesמשהMeaning of the name: Linguist Abraham Yahuda, based on the spelling given in the Tanakh, argues that it combines “water” or “seed” and “pond, expanse of water,” thus yielding the sense of “child of the Nile” For more info click here is born and so begins the chain of events which result in the liberation and birn of the Jewish people. In the desert, the Jews worship a golden calf. The Talmud relates that only men were involved in this crime while the women refused to participate. When AaronאַהֲרוֹןAaron is an English masculine given name. The ‘h’ phoneme in the original Hebrew pronunciation “Aharon” (אהרן) is dropped in the Greek, Ἀαρών, from which the English form, Aaron, is derived. The brother of Moses, is described in the Torah, the Quran and the Baha’i Iqan. The origin of the biblical name is uncertain; however, an Ancient Egyptian origin may indicate “aha rw” meaning “warrior lion”, For more info click here the High Priest solicited gold to construct the golden calf, the TorahתּוֹרָהTōrā,/ˈtɔːrə, ˈtoʊrə/; “Instruction”, “Teaching” or “Law”) The first five books of the Bible or also called “the books of Moses” comes from an archery term meaning to shoot. informs us that the wives refused to part with their jewelry. The women, however, didn’t simply refused to surrender their jewelry because the love of jewelry – because later on when the time came to build the HolyקָדְשׁוֹTransliteration qōḏeš Pronunciation ko’-desh a sacred place or thing; rarely abstract, sanctity:—consecrated (thing), dedicated (thing), hallowed (thing), holiness, (× most) holy (× day, portion, thing), saint, sanctuary. For more info click here TabernacleמִשְׁכָּןTransliteration: miškān dwelling place, tent, shelter, tabernacle, booth For more info click here, we are told that the women were very generous in their contributions of gold. Later on, while the Jewish
The act of marriage creates certain rights and duties between husband and wife. In performing them both parties have to conduct themselves according to the following rules, comprising the fundamental principles for the relationship between husband and wife in Jewish Law :” This the sages laid down that a man shall honor his wife more own self and shall love her as he loves himself, and shall constantly seek to benefit her according to his means; that he shall not unduly impose his authority on her and shall speak gently with her; that he shall be neither sad nor irritable. Similarly they laid down that a wife shall honor her husband exceedingly and shall accept his authority and abide by his wishes in all her activities…” (Maim. Yad, Ishut 15:19 – 20)
From the Jewish Marriage Page 23 – 24 Love and commitment are not enough to get married, and for more than one reason. There is no guarantee that today’s love will not go sour. Nor is there a necessary connection between love and capacity to protect one’s future partner from the contingencies noun (plural) a future event or circumstance which is possible but cannot be predicted with certainty and exigencies noun (plural) an urgent need or demand of life. And finally, life together, even though obviously in need of some measure of spontaneity also demands a structure, even a relatively rigid framework, which will allow the relationship to prosper. The marriage ceremony itself projects the primacy ot the legal framework in Jewish tradition. The ceremony contains no affirmation |ˌafərˈmāSH(ə)n | noun – 1 the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed:1 Law a formal declaration by a person who declines to take an oath for reasons of conscience.2 emotional support or encouragement of love by the couple. Love cannot be legislated, but legitimate responsibilities can be, and are, legislated. The marriage ceremony is primarily a legal act, and a legal undertaking. In the framework clearly set up in the legal compact, areas of responsibility are coherently delineated verb [with object] – describe or portray (something) precisely• indicate the exact position of (a border or boundary)., with room for maneuvering where the specific situation allows,or even calls for, adjustment. The structure and detail of the marital covenant free the couple from entering into the union as if it were a business, and allows their full attention to be directed to each other. The legal document which binds the marriage is known as the Ketuvah. The Ketuvah, in the legal dimension, underlines the relationship and spells out the husband’s obligations to his wife both during and after the marriage that is prohibited for the relationship to continue for the smallest time period without the wife having the Ketuvah. It should also be noted that aside from basic Ketuvah and conjugal obligations, as well as aspects of inheritance, the couple can negotiate both before and after the wedding, the other responsibilities in marriage. As with the other commandments, The tradition affords a delicate balance, providing the structure, and also providing the freedom of the couple to respond to each other, in the context of the structure, in their own unique way.
From the Jewish Marriage page 41 – 44 ShalomשָׁלוֹםTransliteration šālôm Pronunciation shaw-lome’ shalom – completeness, soundness, welfare, peace, well being, wholeness, prosperity For more info click here, as the word which is used to describe “peace”, relates in a fundamental sense to the word shlemut, or “completeness.” ShalomשָׁלוֹםTransliteration šālôm Pronunciation shaw-lome’ shalom – completeness, soundness, welfare, peace, well being, wholeness, prosperity For more info click here disconnected from shlemut peace disconnected from “completeness” is a peace which manifest itself as mutual nonaggression, peace as the absence of war. ShalomשָׁלוֹםTransliteration šālôm Pronunciation shaw-lome’ shalom – completeness, soundness, welfare, peace, well being, wholeness, prosperity For more info click here with shlemut is peace with harmony, peace with cooperativeness, peaces which moves toward completeness. It is this higher level of peace which is so exalted, and should be the ever present goal of our personal and communal strivings. The ultimate goal The ultimate goal, of course, is true peace which permeates the entire world, but that is too massive a task to be thrust any single individual. However, each individual can make a contribution toward this all encompassing goal by working to create peace in his or her immediate environment. Having done all that is within one’s power to effect peace is thus seen to have much more than local implications. Primary focus The home is the primary focus where one’s obligation to effect peace unfolds. Here is where one is able to have a significant input if not control, over peace of the world, the world of one’s home, in its true sense as desired in marriage, is best translated as “domestic bliss”, Shalom Bayit is not the peace of sameness or absence of conflict. It is the completeness of opposites, the translation of differences into more effective action and greater love, incorporating the wisdom gained from shared opinions and give-and-take. To be conversant kənˈvərsənt –adjective–familiar with or knowledgeable about something — Middle English: from Old French, present participle of converser (see converse). The original sense was ‘habitually spending time in a particular place or with a particular person’. in the ways of shalom bayit is to be conversant in the ways of local-cum-global peace. It is to have an exemplary home which is a model for other homes, eventually all homes. It is lamentable that not enough attention is given to the mastery of shalom bayit formulations upon entry into marriage. Whose is the obligation Whose is the obligation to create shalom bayit, domestic bliss? Simply stated , it is the obligation of both husband and wife. That the home should be fortunate enough to enjoy such tranquility and harmony is ultimately a Godly blessing, but it is a blessing and harmony which comes only after the couple work to be eligible for and worthy of that blessing. To be worthy, each of the couple must see shalom bayit as an obligation directed not at the other but at the self. Shalom Bayit is a personal responsibility that beckons each of the partners to make demands on their own selves toward improving the home atmosphere. It is generally a good practice, in areas related to living a life of responsibility, to be very demanding on one’s self. It is a practice which makes for better marriages. Rather than waiting for the other to change, or make a move, one should take the initiative; the other will likely follow. Waiting for the other is stand offish, leads to frustration, and can build up abundant hostility. It can ruin what could have been blissful. This is the active side of shalom bayit. There is another side to shalom bayit, the preventive side. In this, the most appropriate advice is: do not provoke, do not become provoked. Do not provoke, do not introduce strife or contentiousness into the home vocabulary, and go out of your way to prevent strife situations from developing. Do not become provoked Do not become provoked if situations arise in which expectations have not been realized, request have not been heeded, or the normal household has been upset; do not react with anger to your spouse, to whom you may attribute this unwarranted situation. Instead, assume that understandable circumstances have caused the problem, rather than bad intentions. Again, one should not stand on one’s rights or be touchy concerning the honor that is due. Rather than demand what you are convinced belongs to you by right, be flexible and forgiving, not ridged and unforgiving.. …Great sages allowed themselves to be humiliated if that humiliation preserved the peacefulness of a home. This was reason enough to forgo accepted protocols, even to turn a blind eye to obviously contemptible disrespect. These sages did not want to be associated, however with marriage break down. They saw each union as personally and communally significant, and were perhaps fearful that one marriage collapse would pave the way for more, making it acceptable, then maybe event trendy. The sages were working in the background of event more astounding precedent. Manipulating the truth to preserve peace is permitted. In order to preserve the shalom bayit of Abraham and Sarah, God personally manipulated the truth. Even that however, is not the astounding precedent. The astounding precedent relates to the very severe transgression of erasing God’s name. If such erasure could possibly restore the shalom bayit of an estranged husband and wife the erasure is mandated. *The Talmud, Megillah 27a (see also Yoreh De’ah 270:1 and Hilkhot SeferTorah 10:2) allows for the sale a Torah scroll to marry, one of the rare instances such a sale is permitted. The Torah is the basis of community, but it is through marriage that community itself becomes a reality. The ancient sages were not only committed to the sanctity of marriage, but they recognized its profound significance both for individuals and their communities. They believed that the preservation of marriage was of utmost importance, as even one broken relationship could have far-reaching consequences that could lead to a dangerous
From Jewish Marriage pages 21-22 The woman’s position regarding birth control emanates directly from extreme sensitivity of the Torah The first five books of the Bible or also called “the books of Moses” Torah sometimes interpreted “THE LAW” would be better interpreted the teachings. Torah comes from an archery term meaning to shoot. to her own reality. Moreover, if her health is in jeopardy, she can resort to birth control without her husband’s consent. Conjugal relations, and the husband’s responsibility in this sphere of married life, are quite apart from the procreation imperative. Even if, for whatever reason, birth control must be employed, marital conjugality should not be adversely affected. However, once his procreative obligation has been fulfilled, some leeway is given to the husband regarding conjugal obligations. The love that exists between husband and wife is independent of procreation and is an exalted human expression. Such love is a compound blessing if children grow up in that Loving atmosphere. But the failure of this compound blessing to materialize need not diminish from the ennobling ennoble: to make noble: elevate. relationship that is unique to a couple very much devoted to one another.
