From Jewish Marriage pages 21-22
The woman’s position regarding birth control emanates directly from extreme sensitivity of the Torah The first five books of the Bible or also called “the books of Moses” Torah sometimes interpreted “THE LAW” would be better interpreted the teachings. Torah comes from an archery term meaning to shoot. to her own reality. Moreover, if her health is in jeopardy, she can resort to birth control without her husband’s consent. Conjugal relations, and the husband’s responsibility in this sphere of married life, are quite apart from the procreation imperative. Even if, for whatever reason, birth control must be employed, marital conjugality should not be adversely affected. However, once his procreative obligation has been fulfilled, some leeway is given to the husband regarding conjugal obligations.
The love that exists between husband and wife is independent of procreation and is an exalted human expression. Such love is a compound blessing if children grow up in that Loving atmosphere. But the failure of this compound blessing to materialize need not diminish from the ennobling ennoble: to make noble: elevate. relationship that is unique to a couple very much devoted to one another.